{"id":1086,"date":"2023-03-20T08:14:42","date_gmt":"2023-03-20T12:14:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/cami-icmu.ca\/?post_type=cami-stories&#038;p=1086"},"modified":"2023-08-28T21:04:06","modified_gmt":"2023-08-29T01:04:06","slug":"small-acts-of-kindness-matter","status":"publish","type":"cami-stories","link":"https:\/\/cami-icmu.ca\/fr\/cami-stories\/small-acts-of-kindness-matter\/","title":{"rendered":"L'importance des petits gestes de bont\u00e9"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>This morning, I was prompted to reflect on\u00a0a time when someone showed me kindness.\u00a0My first thought was a hallway conversation I had with a colleague after being criticized by a coworker and was feeling offended (and a bit defensive) about it.\u00a0 I can\u2019t remember her exact words, but I do remember her listening intently and giving me perspective that I had not thought of; that often these reactions arise out of a lack of compassion for ourselves.\u00a0 She related to me times when she was not compassionate with herself and how it affected her interactions.\u00a0 She recommended the book, \u201cSelf-Compassion\u201d by Kristin Neff.\u00a0 In her book, Kristin relates her empirical studies on self-compassion and contrasts it with self-esteem which often requires perfectionism and a need to defend oneself.\u00a0 It is interesting, and now a bit obvious, that practicing self-compassion allows me to be kinder in my interactions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote has-large-font-size is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\" style=\"font-style:normal;font-weight:700\">\n<p class=\"has-text-color has-x-large-font-size\" style=\"color:#e8bcb1;font-style:italic;font-weight:700\">\u00ab Les choses qui interrompent mon travail, SONT mon travail \u00bb<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Remembering to be kind is the trick. I am learning to use feelings of frustration as a sign of being overwhelmed and a cue to take care of the caregiver in me, signaling time out for a self-compassion break.\u00a0 If I forget how to do this, Kristin\u2019s guided self-compassion meditations are good reminders that I am human and need to be kind to myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:60px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image aligncenter size-full\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"1800\" src=\"https:\/\/cami-icmu.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/CAMi-StoryImages-DrCherylHolmes-600x900-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1184\" srcset=\"https:\/\/cami-icmu.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/CAMi-StoryImages-DrCherylHolmes-600x900-1.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/cami-icmu.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/CAMi-StoryImages-DrCherylHolmes-600x900-1-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/cami-icmu.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/CAMi-StoryImages-DrCherylHolmes-600x900-1-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/cami-icmu.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/CAMi-StoryImages-DrCherylHolmes-600x900-1-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/cami-icmu.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/CAMi-StoryImages-DrCherylHolmes-600x900-1-1024x1536.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/cami-icmu.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/CAMi-StoryImages-DrCherylHolmes-600x900-1-8x12.jpg 8w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:60px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Typically, being in a hurry is a barrier for me to be kind.\u00a0 A wise person once told me, <em>\u00ab Les choses qui interrompent mon travail, SONT mon travail \u00bb<\/em>.\u00a0 For a highly organized person like me, success can mean ticking things off my daily \u201cto do\u201d list.\u00a0 Another consult, another resuscitation, another admission, another dictation, another order set, another central line \u2013 done.\u00a0 Interruptions are annoying.\u00a0 I have learned to note interruptions as signals to take a self-compassion break and express deep listening and kindness to the other person.\u00a0 It is amazing how these interactions lead to a much more satisfying day than just ticking off the tasks on my to do list.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Thank you, Dr. CW, your kindness in asking me how I was doing had a profound effect on me and has influenced my growth as a person, as a physician, and as a leader.\u00a0Thank you, Dr. IS, for showing me the power of interruptions to slow down and change my perspective.\u00a0 I am grateful to all of you, my team, my colleagues, and students who continue to demonstrate patience, compassion, and kindness.\u00a0 Together we can change the culture of academic medicine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:60px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image aligncenter size-full\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"1200\" src=\"https:\/\/cami-icmu.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/CAMi-StoryImages-DrCherylHolmes-600x600-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1183\" srcset=\"https:\/\/cami-icmu.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/CAMi-StoryImages-DrCherylHolmes-600x600-1.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/cami-icmu.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/CAMi-StoryImages-DrCherylHolmes-600x600-1-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/cami-icmu.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/CAMi-StoryImages-DrCherylHolmes-600x600-1-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/cami-icmu.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/CAMi-StoryImages-DrCherylHolmes-600x600-1-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/cami-icmu.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/CAMi-StoryImages-DrCherylHolmes-600x600-1-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/cami-icmu.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/CAMi-StoryImages-DrCherylHolmes-600x600-1-12x12.jpg 12w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:60px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ce matin, j'ai \u00e9t\u00e9 amen\u00e9e \u00e0 r\u00e9fl\u00e9chir \u00e0 un moment o\u00f9 quelqu'un avait fait preuve de gentillesse \u00e0 mon \u00e9gard. <\/p>","protected":false},"parent":0,"template":"","cami-themes":[8],"class_list":["post-1086","cami-stories","type-cami-stories","status-publish","hentry","cami-themes-respect"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.6 - 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